On the SCA Facebook, someone asked about whether or not people in various kingdoms maintain a vigil wishlist. A few people said yes, one person said that it was considered presumptuous in their kingdom, and would reflect poorly on a candidate.
My response was well received, and I wanted to keep it somewhere I could actually find it, rather than allow it to get buried in Facebook for all time.
My father has all of his dependents write an “Open in Case of Peerage” letter. I have written one as well, and he, my fiance, and my knight have copies. His theory is that this is one of the biggest events in one’s sca life, if and when it happens, and it should turn out the way you want it to. It is not presumptuous to know what you want if something should happen, it is presumptuous to assume something will happen.
That is what I posted on Facebook. Of course, I always have more to say.
I think that it is an important distinction. People are entitled to get what they want out of a peerage ceremony. It’s not presumptuous to know what you want. I have heard too many people say, “Well, it was great to get my laurel, by I really wish I hadn’t been surprised like that” or “I would have chosen _______ to speak for me instead” This is the one time that the kingdom stops and recognizes a career in the SCA, and you deserve to be recognized the way you want to be. So yes, I have an in-case-of-peerage letter. And you should too, even if you think that you will never get there. Because your friends could always surprise you.